A Couple Of Ways To Reconnect With Your Ex Lover

Technically, any strategy could work if the circumstances are aligned perfectly. Chances are you aren't interested in any kind of plan that might work once in a while. However, you probably would be interested in dividing different approaches into those that clearly work and those that do not. Here are a couple of ways to reconnect with your ex lover. On one side there is the aggressive strategy and on the other there is the conservative one.
Initially, the best route to take would be to give your ex lover a little time and space. Regardless of who put the break up into action, you will both definitely need some time in order to get over the pain of the breakup. He or she is going to need time away from you.
Now, if you continue to see each other on a regular basis, either one of you will have a chance to miss the other one.You both need time to remember the happy stuff before you broke up. Without this precious time, you ultimately risk alienating them even further and destroying any chances of ever reconnecting with your ex lover.
Eventually, you'll both get over the split up. Now is when you can start to build your relationship once again. It is here that the successful strategies can branch out.
You have the aggressive strategy which lets you really put the pressure on and take a shot that they're not totally committed to the separation. You can actually drive them a little bit more arduously with the aggressive plan, but you still need to pay strict attention to what you're doing.
Because if you go to far, you're at risk of the whole thing blowing up in your face and losing him or her not only as a potential lover but as a potential friend as well.
The conservative strategy is the one that you need if you are interested in staying friends with him or her even if you are not able to restore any kind of romantic relationship. This is all about letting the relationship build slowly and then moving from good friends to lovers whenever the time is right.
Unlike that other plan, there's no pressure being applied on your ex lover or yourself for that matter. Simply enjoy your time as friends until you are sure that you both are ready to take it to the next level.
This plan is generally a less successful way to reconnect with your ex lover than the aggressive one because the opening for change is less available when you're being conservative.
The up side is that it doesn't have the same potential to blow up as the aggressive one has. So it's better for maintaining a positive relationship with your him or her, even if that relationship is a non-romantic one.
The bottom line is, the decision that you make will depend on if you want your ex lover to be your friend or your friend to be your lover.
Tony Cimba writes articles on relationships.

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