I'm not sure about you, but I'm the "go to" person for all my
friends, at least relationship wise. But I had to go through a lot of
pain to get this way, the only reason I have advice is because I've been
through enough breakups to have something to say. I've been frequently
asked about how to get ex lover back, so I'm going to save myself some
oxygen and just refer them to this page.
This applies to everyone:
Don't contact your ex!
Yes, I know. It's easier said than done. But all you're really accomplishing by calling, texting, e-mailing and Morse coding your ex is chasing them away. As long as you're in contact with them and trying to get them back they know they have you wrapped around their finger. They can probably do whatever they want, and get away with it.
So don't give them the opportunity. Instead, sit down and write a short straight to the point letter. Inform your ex that you think the breakup was a good idea; you're taken some time to get to know yourself and work on the things that make you happy. You still love your ex dearly but you've realized so much since your splitting up, your eyes are now open.
Your ex is going to be taken aback by this. Why in the world aren't you groveling at their feet, it just isn't fair! And now they're going to begin thinking about you. Thinking of all the ways that things could have been different, you're so happy now without them that it's going to make them sad.
This is what you want, because it's going to start bringing the two of you back together. You want to be happy in a relationship right? Well, when your ex sees you happy now they start thinking of all the ways you used to be happy, together.
At some point your ex is going to contact you. Stay calm. Regardless of how upset or angry you are, keep it to yourself, you have to present yourself as a capable human being if you want things to work. They're going to want to see you, spend some time with you. The key to success is: Keep it Fun!
Go out on a lunch date, or the movies! Avoid stuffy dinner restaurants. If you can present yourself as a happy person, and you can have fun together again it's going to mend things quicker than you may expect. People fall in love for a reason, it's not everyday that we fall in love. So whatever it there that's special is still there!
This applies to everyone:
Don't contact your ex!
Yes, I know. It's easier said than done. But all you're really accomplishing by calling, texting, e-mailing and Morse coding your ex is chasing them away. As long as you're in contact with them and trying to get them back they know they have you wrapped around their finger. They can probably do whatever they want, and get away with it.
So don't give them the opportunity. Instead, sit down and write a short straight to the point letter. Inform your ex that you think the breakup was a good idea; you're taken some time to get to know yourself and work on the things that make you happy. You still love your ex dearly but you've realized so much since your splitting up, your eyes are now open.
Your ex is going to be taken aback by this. Why in the world aren't you groveling at their feet, it just isn't fair! And now they're going to begin thinking about you. Thinking of all the ways that things could have been different, you're so happy now without them that it's going to make them sad.
This is what you want, because it's going to start bringing the two of you back together. You want to be happy in a relationship right? Well, when your ex sees you happy now they start thinking of all the ways you used to be happy, together.
At some point your ex is going to contact you. Stay calm. Regardless of how upset or angry you are, keep it to yourself, you have to present yourself as a capable human being if you want things to work. They're going to want to see you, spend some time with you. The key to success is: Keep it Fun!
Go out on a lunch date, or the movies! Avoid stuffy dinner restaurants. If you can present yourself as a happy person, and you can have fun together again it's going to mend things quicker than you may expect. People fall in love for a reason, it's not everyday that we fall in love. So whatever it there that's special is still there!
