Have you ever felt incomplete when you're not in a relationship?
Do you fall in love with the next guy you meet because you find him
attractive? Do you stay in a relationship with someone just for the sake
of having a boyfriend, even if he doesn't treat you right? Don't be
angry at yourself because I also feel that way.
I am a lover of love. Ever since I have started to feel attraction towards the opposite sex, I have felt that I easily fall in love. And I also seek for that perfect person who would sweep me off my feet, ask me to marry him and live happily ever after. When I meet someone who I thought is "the one" but it doesn't turn out to be that way, I cry a couple of days and bounce back again soon enough to be attracted to another guy. I guess you could say I am addicted to love.
I've personally struggled my way into being sober from love. Let me share some tips on how you could get out of the "I am addicted to love" syndrome.
Tip # 1: Love yourself first.
Do not put the burden on your partner to fill you with all the love you need because he won't be able to do that. You have to learn to love yourself first. Loving oneself doesn't mean you're selfish or self-centered. It is when you appreciate yourself would you feel that you have the right to be loved for who you are. If you don't know how to love yourself, you won't be able to love anyone else.
Tip # 2: Choose wisely.
We all have our ideal mates, from the way a guy should look, his intellect, and his personality. Girls who have the "I am addicted to love" sickness easily fall in love with a guy whom she feels has all the characteristics she wants in a guy. When we are infatuated with someone, we tend to be blind by incompatibilities and try to find things which both if you may have. Don't get into a relationship for the sake of having one because either one of you will be hurt in the process.
Tip # 3: Stop daydreaming.
With the "I am addicted to love" attitude, you start to think about the guy you like every second every minute of the day when you are not busy. You start to imagine going out on dates, doing romantic things together, and eventually getting married and have kids. Stop that foolishness and focus on the important things in a relationship such as being able to communicate and "talk the same talk", exploring each other's likes and dislikes, and enjoying each other's company.
Tip # 4: Hold off sex.
It's hard to get out of the "I am addicted to love" syndrome when you spend a lot of intimate moments with your guy. Don't think that when a guy frequently has sex with you, they love you already. You could just be blinded by what you think he feels about you. Special moments come when you discover your compatibilities and similarities. Not when you're both naked and in bed.
I am a lover of love. Ever since I have started to feel attraction towards the opposite sex, I have felt that I easily fall in love. And I also seek for that perfect person who would sweep me off my feet, ask me to marry him and live happily ever after. When I meet someone who I thought is "the one" but it doesn't turn out to be that way, I cry a couple of days and bounce back again soon enough to be attracted to another guy. I guess you could say I am addicted to love.
I've personally struggled my way into being sober from love. Let me share some tips on how you could get out of the "I am addicted to love" syndrome.
Tip # 1: Love yourself first.
Do not put the burden on your partner to fill you with all the love you need because he won't be able to do that. You have to learn to love yourself first. Loving oneself doesn't mean you're selfish or self-centered. It is when you appreciate yourself would you feel that you have the right to be loved for who you are. If you don't know how to love yourself, you won't be able to love anyone else.
Tip # 2: Choose wisely.
We all have our ideal mates, from the way a guy should look, his intellect, and his personality. Girls who have the "I am addicted to love" sickness easily fall in love with a guy whom she feels has all the characteristics she wants in a guy. When we are infatuated with someone, we tend to be blind by incompatibilities and try to find things which both if you may have. Don't get into a relationship for the sake of having one because either one of you will be hurt in the process.
Tip # 3: Stop daydreaming.
With the "I am addicted to love" attitude, you start to think about the guy you like every second every minute of the day when you are not busy. You start to imagine going out on dates, doing romantic things together, and eventually getting married and have kids. Stop that foolishness and focus on the important things in a relationship such as being able to communicate and "talk the same talk", exploring each other's likes and dislikes, and enjoying each other's company.
Tip # 4: Hold off sex.
It's hard to get out of the "I am addicted to love" syndrome when you spend a lot of intimate moments with your guy. Don't think that when a guy frequently has sex with you, they love you already. You could just be blinded by what you think he feels about you. Special moments come when you discover your compatibilities and similarities. Not when you're both naked and in bed.
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