It was probably the momentum from a lazy winter, but for the initial couple of weeks of springtime, I was truly slacking on my fashion and grooming. I figured that I was doing things 80 % right, which must be good enough for my goals. I was getting laid and I still looked much better compared to most other dudes, so I figured I would be alright.
My results were pretty normal, however the quality of girl I was pulling was a little bit sub-standard. The amount of effort I needed to place in was likewise more than normal. Not very, but visibly so. Just recently, I enhanced my efforts to look fresh every single time I went out and the modification has been similarly noticeable. I've been acquiring additional eye contact from even more girls and they were much more receptive when I approached.
To reiterate, the improvements in my game were not huge, but they were prominent. I assumed it was just one more application of the "be attractive; don't be unattractive" proverb. However, a peculiar concept struck me one day as I was doing some bird watching with a couple of friends.
We were talking about the best ways to distinguish the freaks from the prudes based upon look. Large bracelets and earrings means she's frisky. A t-shirt underneath a camisole means never mind. A deep tan means a easy 'tang. Floppy hat and long sleeves equals pass. Weird fashion plus no make-up indicates Chinese, which equates to garlic breath and a firm no thank you.
One member of our group that day was a Unite States Air Force officer and Japan newbie whose only input into the discussion was, "Damn, anything in a short skirt looks like slam piece to me." Our level of detail was clearly lost on him.
Our newbie friend's inability to see what we were seeing made me realize that Japanese women likely have a similar sorting system for Japanese men and a similar lack of a sorting system for foreign men. It is a natural result of being surrounded by and interacting with Japanese men for the entirety of their formative years. By the time they graduate and enter the workforce/adult dating market, this sorting skill is so well practiced as to be sub conscious and automatic.
I must note that when I claim that Japanese ladies understand exactly what a high worth Japanese guy looks like, I am referring to know-how on the subconscious level. This is an intuitive procedure, the outcome of a lifetime of monitoring and interaction.
This means if you resemble an East Asian, you need to look good or you run the risk of running into denial. Various other foreigners will certainly have a bit even more leeway to work their game given that an overseas face will initially delay Japanese females' automated filters. But, speaking from personal observation, the magnitude of this effect is minimal for most. Foreigners are require to look excellent to obtain Japanese women as well. Evident schlubs are turned down outright regardless of their skin tone and the white dude in the club with running shoes and cargo pants is still going the home with his hand.
Remember, this subconscious sorting works both ways. If he landed on the sexy side of it, an asian man could have a whole lot of success a lot easier and with more girls compared to his more exotic equal. If he does not, he will have to deal with a lot more obstacles on his journey to the promise land.
The bottom line: If you're an Asian guy looking for love in Japan, make sure your look is fresh and your fitness is top notch.
My results were pretty normal, however the quality of girl I was pulling was a little bit sub-standard. The amount of effort I needed to place in was likewise more than normal. Not very, but visibly so. Just recently, I enhanced my efforts to look fresh every single time I went out and the modification has been similarly noticeable. I've been acquiring additional eye contact from even more girls and they were much more receptive when I approached.
To reiterate, the improvements in my game were not huge, but they were prominent. I assumed it was just one more application of the "be attractive; don't be unattractive" proverb. However, a peculiar concept struck me one day as I was doing some bird watching with a couple of friends.
We were talking about the best ways to distinguish the freaks from the prudes based upon look. Large bracelets and earrings means she's frisky. A t-shirt underneath a camisole means never mind. A deep tan means a easy 'tang. Floppy hat and long sleeves equals pass. Weird fashion plus no make-up indicates Chinese, which equates to garlic breath and a firm no thank you.
One member of our group that day was a Unite States Air Force officer and Japan newbie whose only input into the discussion was, "Damn, anything in a short skirt looks like slam piece to me." Our level of detail was clearly lost on him.
Our newbie friend's inability to see what we were seeing made me realize that Japanese women likely have a similar sorting system for Japanese men and a similar lack of a sorting system for foreign men. It is a natural result of being surrounded by and interacting with Japanese men for the entirety of their formative years. By the time they graduate and enter the workforce/adult dating market, this sorting skill is so well practiced as to be sub conscious and automatic.
I must note that when I claim that Japanese ladies understand exactly what a high worth Japanese guy looks like, I am referring to know-how on the subconscious level. This is an intuitive procedure, the outcome of a lifetime of monitoring and interaction.
This means if you resemble an East Asian, you need to look good or you run the risk of running into denial. Various other foreigners will certainly have a bit even more leeway to work their game given that an overseas face will initially delay Japanese females' automated filters. But, speaking from personal observation, the magnitude of this effect is minimal for most. Foreigners are require to look excellent to obtain Japanese women as well. Evident schlubs are turned down outright regardless of their skin tone and the white dude in the club with running shoes and cargo pants is still going the home with his hand.
Remember, this subconscious sorting works both ways. If he landed on the sexy side of it, an asian man could have a whole lot of success a lot easier and with more girls compared to his more exotic equal. If he does not, he will have to deal with a lot more obstacles on his journey to the promise land.
The bottom line: If you're an Asian guy looking for love in Japan, make sure your look is fresh and your fitness is top notch.
About the Author:
Japanese girls can be a mystery. They certainly were to me, and I'm Japanese-American. Fortunately, I figured out how to lead a life of romantic abundance in the land of the rising sun. Learn everything I wish I'd known about meeting Japanese girls back when I was a college graduate on my blog: redsunblue.com
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