There's nothing unusual about your desire to get back together with your girlfriend or wife after a breakup. You love her and she was a part of your life every day for some time until things began to get weird. Every man that has ever been dumped has been where you are and even the strongest man alive would probably tell you that it affected his self-esteem and his life, in general. What you need to know is that your ability to get back up, brush yourself off and make some changes is important if you are serious about winning your ex back. This includes your attitude. You will find that attitude means everything when we're talking about relationships and especially your relationship with your wife or girlfriend after a breakup.
Most guys try all the tried and true methods that they are told will help them to convince their girlfriend to come back. You have probably already thought of trying to talk things through or promising that things will be different in order to change her heart. Of course, in case you didn't already know, these methods aren't going to get you anywhere. Unless your wife or girlfriend has a desire to work things out, these methods will only make her avoid your further. If you are guilty of trying to talk to her about getting back together or if you made some emotional plea for her to come back to you because you love her then you have done more damage than good. The only way that you are going to undo this damage is by giving her a little space and time. You should avoid trying to make contact with her and wait for her to connect with you again. It will happen but it's going to take a while. You can contact her again at some point if you want to but only once you have your life straightened out and you are feeling strong emotionally again.
From here on out, you're going to work on your attitude. The attitude that works best when trying to attract your ex back or any woman, for that matter, is one of self-respect and indifference. You must prepare yourself and be willing to literally walk away at the first sign of disrespect coming from her. The moment you start to feel that she is laughing at you, belittling you or disrespecting you, you're going to leave the situation. You're not going to react or become angry. You're simply going to terminate communicating with her. This new found attitude will be seen in your actions, your words as well as how you carry yourself from here on out in life.
Along with this new attitude you need to put any thought out of your mind that concerns how she will react to your new attitude. It's going to be a little shocking for her, that's for sure. If she is accustomed to yelling at you or calling you names, she is accustomed to holding all the power in the relationship. If, in the past, you stood there and took this abuse or if you tried to argue with her or explain yourself, those days are through. From now on, you will remind her that she is not your partner, girlfriend or wife. She relinquished that title and the right to state her opinion about anything when she left you. You will turn and literally walk away from the conversation and take that power with you. She will do one of two things. She will either come after you immediately and apologize or she will think about what just happened for a while. She will then have gained some respect for you as a man and the process of falling in love with you will begin.
If you have every let your wife or ex-girlfriend see you upset, crying or emotionally distraught over your breakup, that has to end. Never let your ex know that you're upset, sad, lonely or missing them. Always have a smile on your face or a happy demeanor any time you're in public and especially when you see your ex. Your body language should be of a man that is confident, secure and happy with life. You have the freedom now to create the life that you dream about and you feel good about yourself. The sky is the limit and every day you are getting better and better. You have a lot going for you and you are free to live your life the way you want.
You might worry that your ex-girlfriend or wife will take your new found confidence as a slap in the face. You might think that she will think that you don't care about her anymore or that you don't want her back. That's fine. Let her think that. Let her ask you about it. Life is for living and we all only have a certain number of days on this earth to live. If she wants to be a part of that life then that would be great but if not, you still have to be happy. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to have everything that you ever desired in life. You're a new man. Never let her see you sweat and never let her see you cry.
Along with all of this, you need to back up your claims to being so happy and loving life with something real. What are you doing? What is your life all about? It's time that you solidified your goals and dreams and wrote them down. You have wasted enough time being sad. It's time for you to be happy. What makes you happy? What do you want to achieve in your life? Do you want to travel the world? Have you always dreamed about being wealthy? How are you going to get there? What do you dream about when you're feeling good and you feel that you can achieve anything? Write it down and start making plans for how you're going to achieve these goals. Whether your girlfriend or wife is a part of that dream is up to you.
You will find that in relationships with women and in life, in general, your attitude has everything to do with your success. Women have an instinct for picking up how strong or weak a man is and they are always attracted to men that are confident and who have vision. People in general are attracted to others that are happy. This is just how we are wired. Once your ex realizes that she made a huge mistake about you and your relationship, she will want come back to you. Once she feels attracted to you again there will be no holding her back. Any obstacle that was in her way before will be gone. There will be no need to talk about the breakup and you won't have to change a thing about yourself. She will want to get back together and you will be the one to decide whether you want to continue the relationship or not.
Most guys try all the tried and true methods that they are told will help them to convince their girlfriend to come back. You have probably already thought of trying to talk things through or promising that things will be different in order to change her heart. Of course, in case you didn't already know, these methods aren't going to get you anywhere. Unless your wife or girlfriend has a desire to work things out, these methods will only make her avoid your further. If you are guilty of trying to talk to her about getting back together or if you made some emotional plea for her to come back to you because you love her then you have done more damage than good. The only way that you are going to undo this damage is by giving her a little space and time. You should avoid trying to make contact with her and wait for her to connect with you again. It will happen but it's going to take a while. You can contact her again at some point if you want to but only once you have your life straightened out and you are feeling strong emotionally again.
From here on out, you're going to work on your attitude. The attitude that works best when trying to attract your ex back or any woman, for that matter, is one of self-respect and indifference. You must prepare yourself and be willing to literally walk away at the first sign of disrespect coming from her. The moment you start to feel that she is laughing at you, belittling you or disrespecting you, you're going to leave the situation. You're not going to react or become angry. You're simply going to terminate communicating with her. This new found attitude will be seen in your actions, your words as well as how you carry yourself from here on out in life.
Along with this new attitude you need to put any thought out of your mind that concerns how she will react to your new attitude. It's going to be a little shocking for her, that's for sure. If she is accustomed to yelling at you or calling you names, she is accustomed to holding all the power in the relationship. If, in the past, you stood there and took this abuse or if you tried to argue with her or explain yourself, those days are through. From now on, you will remind her that she is not your partner, girlfriend or wife. She relinquished that title and the right to state her opinion about anything when she left you. You will turn and literally walk away from the conversation and take that power with you. She will do one of two things. She will either come after you immediately and apologize or she will think about what just happened for a while. She will then have gained some respect for you as a man and the process of falling in love with you will begin.
If you have every let your wife or ex-girlfriend see you upset, crying or emotionally distraught over your breakup, that has to end. Never let your ex know that you're upset, sad, lonely or missing them. Always have a smile on your face or a happy demeanor any time you're in public and especially when you see your ex. Your body language should be of a man that is confident, secure and happy with life. You have the freedom now to create the life that you dream about and you feel good about yourself. The sky is the limit and every day you are getting better and better. You have a lot going for you and you are free to live your life the way you want.
You might worry that your ex-girlfriend or wife will take your new found confidence as a slap in the face. You might think that she will think that you don't care about her anymore or that you don't want her back. That's fine. Let her think that. Let her ask you about it. Life is for living and we all only have a certain number of days on this earth to live. If she wants to be a part of that life then that would be great but if not, you still have to be happy. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to have everything that you ever desired in life. You're a new man. Never let her see you sweat and never let her see you cry.
Along with all of this, you need to back up your claims to being so happy and loving life with something real. What are you doing? What is your life all about? It's time that you solidified your goals and dreams and wrote them down. You have wasted enough time being sad. It's time for you to be happy. What makes you happy? What do you want to achieve in your life? Do you want to travel the world? Have you always dreamed about being wealthy? How are you going to get there? What do you dream about when you're feeling good and you feel that you can achieve anything? Write it down and start making plans for how you're going to achieve these goals. Whether your girlfriend or wife is a part of that dream is up to you.
You will find that in relationships with women and in life, in general, your attitude has everything to do with your success. Women have an instinct for picking up how strong or weak a man is and they are always attracted to men that are confident and who have vision. People in general are attracted to others that are happy. This is just how we are wired. Once your ex realizes that she made a huge mistake about you and your relationship, she will want come back to you. Once she feels attracted to you again there will be no holding her back. Any obstacle that was in her way before will be gone. There will be no need to talk about the breakup and you won't have to change a thing about yourself. She will want to get back together and you will be the one to decide whether you want to continue the relationship or not.
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