How To Know If Your Marriage Needs Relationship Help?

By Reynaldo Fuentes


Almost all marriages need help at one time or another in order to maintain a good relationship. Any marriage that doesn't have a good relationship will probably not last for long. Even if the union does happen to last somehow, the couples are usually not content and happy.

The difference between a marriage and a relationship is that when people marry, they form a bond in matrimony and in the eyes of the law and man they are united until death (or divorce) do they part.

A relationship on the other hand, is a meaningful sense of well being formed after the marriage takes place that will grow and deepen as long as the two parties maintain their union. In many cases, the relationship actually begins prior to the marriage.

If you're hearing cues from others that you need help, your marriage likely does. For instance, do you go to functions without your spouse? If so, how often? Do you make excuses for him or her? Are they true reasons or are you just being polite?

When you are spending time together, you constantly complain about different petty annoyances and are always criticizing each other. Or sometimes it goes to the other extreme. You may be in the same room but never speak to one another. It doesn't matter what the other is talking about or does, it is uninteresting and boring.

Other warning signs of a troubled relationship may be a big lack of interest when it comes to being intimate. You are both attractive and young, but there just isn't any spark anymore. At the same time, you may fantasize about other people.

There is no more affection, no kisses, no hugs and no "I Love You" being said to each other. We're human folks, we all need these things. You have a serious problem and you need to fix this or move on.

If carried to the extremes, your partner can really be turned off by jealousy. The jealous person might withdraw from intimacy because they think their partner has been unfaithful. The accused person might also hold back on their feelings because they are tired of all the jealous questions and constant badgering.

Avoid exaggeration and establish some ground rules. If jealousy is still an issue, seek help immediately. If your relationship is going to survive, you must curtail jealousy.

Debt is another culprit that is responsible for relationship issues. Not having money can be serious. If one partner overspends constantly, it can cause a huge rift in the relationship.

When one partner spends more than the other partner the marriage is drowning in bills. The relationship then begins to sink and debt drains the life blood from the relationship.

Marriages suffer frequently when things like this occur. Conflicts and disagreements soon become the norm. It's good to stop and do inventory on occasion and see how things are really going between the two of you. Make the required adjustments and continue on in your life. You will see a huge difference and the relationship will become much stronger in the end.




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